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Biological clock and love

Written by Daniel Otero

Your biological clock is ticking if…


By:Daniel Otero



you ever have the need to get married and literally have to have a baby already like, ‘yesterday’.  Therefore, your looking for a man desperately to fit into your life and hoping that his genes will give you a great child!


This is actually what your biological clock is all about and it hits most women when they’re around 35 years.  Yes, the latter is still the fertile years, but harder and riskier to get pregnant because of the decrease in hormones.  By 45, it may be over for most women to conceive a child.  But with science, also women can now get pregnant in their 50s.


Chinese women often face a dilemma, they’re constantly forced into the above, these traditionalist views. No woman should never have to face the fact of being married before she’s 30 and already with child if she doesn’t want to have one!


Therefore, let’s set the bar to a different standard.


A good start for women to get married is when they’re good and ready.


Whether they’re 30 or 80 years old, what matters is to live by your rules and comprehend that your happiness is number one and not your family’s.  Be completely selfish on what you want and not what other people want.  I’ve overstated it repeatedly in other cases, this one shouldn’t be any different!


But if you’re still harping about getting married just to have a baby, then the best age to get married is after 30 and before 45.  If you’re confident, you can get any man you want!  These are the best periods of stability and maturity in a person’s life and divorces are less frequent.  Thirty is young enough to have children and 45 is old enough to be capable to face motherhood with maturity!


Furthermore, I find myself appalled by women constantly facing deep-rooted pressures and prejudices from other women.  Girls, don’t be your own worse enemies!


As a man, I never had to face the same stresses.  Actually, I can be fat, balding, over 40 and marry or have children whenever I want if I’m extrovert enough!


A man can already impregnate a female by the time he’s 13 years old until the end of his life!


For women, it’s not the same and unfair as it sounds, ladies you must learn to lead your own destinies.  Not what the world expects or wants out of you.  However, what do you want?


Women have been having babies for the past 200 thousand years and this isn’t going to change anytime soon, but do things out of love.  Don’t let other pressures rule your life.  Allow yourself to be happy, this will help your life blossom.  Let it be the right man, the right moment to have a baby!  Not under pressure or forced by the confines of society, this will lead to your own demise and unhappiness.


Reach your full potential as a woman.  Quality is in the love you receive and give! It’s not to show the rest of the world I’m in a marriage or have a child I don’t want. Be in a relationship when you want too, but most of all, be happy!  Isn’t this simple enough?

About the author

Daniel Otero

A New Yorker who has been living in China for the past 10 years. He's a freelance writer/journalist and ESL (English as a Second Language) teacher.

A former member of the military with extensive travel to 50 countries and has lived in six.

Lover of life, good food, travel, writing and dealing with social issues.